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Enjoy Your Life Regardless of What Happens: Change Your Point of View

“Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and one sees the stars.”- Frederick Langbridge, A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts

If you’ve placed second in a writing contest, will you jump for joy and push for better results the next time or will you be discouraged and find an excuse not to join again?

In life, you are always filled with choices. You may opt to have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life or you may decide to take the optimist’s route and take a challenging and fulfilling life.

So why nurture an optimist’s point of view? And why now?

Well, optimism has been linked to positive mood and good morale; to academic, athletic, military, occupational and political success; to popularity; to good health and even to long life and freedom from trauma.

On the other hand, the rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The mean age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a teen-ager’s disorder’ as well.

Here’s how optimists are in action and researches that back up why it really pays to be an optimist:

Optimists expect the best

The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend to believe bad events, which will last a long time and undermine everything they do, are their own fault.

The truth is optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world. What differs is the way they explain their misfortune—it’s the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case.

Optimists tend to focus on and plan for the ‘problem’ at hand. They use ‘positive reinterpretation.’ In other words, they most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by bad situation, they perceive it is a challenge and try harder.

They won’t say “things will never get better,” “If I failed once, it will happen again” and “If I experience misfortune in one part of my life, then it will happen in my whole life.”

Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions during transitions to new environments, sudden tragedies and unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles.

People respond positively to optimists

Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and influence those they are with.

Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities. Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are treated unfavorably.

In life, these people often win elections; get voted most congenial and sought for advice.

When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher.

Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise.

They persevere. They just don’t give up easily, they are also known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer to that goal or elusive dream.

Optimists are healthier and live longer.

Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body’s ability to fight disease.

Optimists’ health is unusually good. They age well, much freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts.

So why not be an optimist today? And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.

Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors? Why not be resilient? Like everybody else you are bound to hit lows sometimes but don’t just stay there. Carry yourself out of the mud and improve your chances of getting back on the right track. And why not inspire others to remove their dark-colored glasses and see life in the bright side?

By Julio Mattos

Taking Daily Action

http://www.MrJulio.com

So What Are Your Plans For The Weekend?

By Julio Mattos

This morning I really woke up early and went to bed late. But what a wonderful feeling it is to awake from your slumber fully refreshed and it seemed like I didn’t want to get out of bed, you know that feeling where you can sleep and you don’t want to get up and next thing you know. You look around the room and you see what’s on the wall or look at a picture, depending of course what you have on your wall, I have a picture of a beautiful waterfall, a man jumping off into the water, while a beautiful sun set, ah what a picture and of course the mountains in the background and some other small things.  Well you can see that was a breath fresh air and I think about beautiful scenery’s I have seen before and constantly enjoy seeing.

Look what I am getting at some morning’s and some days are far better then others, but it’s up to you to choose how you would like your day, week, weekend, month and year to go. No matter if you have problems that will arise or not, it’s better to grasp on to something that makes you happy and allows you to shine brighter then any star, that is in the sky at about nine pm in the evening.  You know when it’s almost turning into the next day and you are able to see all of those beautiful stars in the dark sky, sometimes you can see shapes and other times you cannot see any stars at all because of thick fog in the sky.

It’s that time of year where families come together, to celebrate Thanksgiving and to say Thanks for whatever they are thankful for. Some of my friends do not eat meat and so they really do not like celebrating this holiday, but all truism it’s best suited to say Thanks everyday. I enjoy my life and everything that’s come into it, it doesn’t matter if it’s good or bad, what matters is that you enjoy yourself each day, that you take time out to remember the reason why you are working, coming together as a family, to catch up on what has been going on in each other’s life.

We realize that we allow ourselves to make so many excuses as to why we cannot meet with family, friends, and our spouses, sometimes we would rather avoid dealing with what may come our way. Me personally I would rather take things straight on and enjoy each experience that follows, because you can never trully grow until you are ready to except the obstacles that will surely come into your life. That’s not all you have to be willing to learn from each experience and take that little tidbit from that situation and look to better yourself in the long-term. We must except that life has a circle pattern, where by we must learn and adapt to each and every new encounter that comes into our lives.

Today I have been working on some plans that I started last night, it has kept me full thought since earlier in the week and it has had me reflect on where I am currently this year, what work I have been doing, what activities, what experiences that I have enjoyed and took a tidbit from each of these, I have been keeping a journal as to each and every experience that I have had. Wow you will be blown away by when you look back at a certain day and you read the notes that you have written, you would see what you got from that current task and situation and what you learned from it. These things are very important and sometimes life changing, all in all it’s quite a beneficial site to see, when you truly not reflect upon the situations that happen but also what situations that still yet to come.

Plan out some nice fun activities for yourself, spend time with your family and friends. Go to the gym and get your exercise in, I surely am getting my exercise in and let me tell you, it feels terrific after a good cardio session and then some free weights. I also plan to go swimming tonight after I finish a few projects that I have scheduled to work on today. Let’s enjoy our lives and make each better then the day that has passed.

For each day that we claim and enjoy, take some kind of action to improve and to truly enjoy then it will be day worth living for, worth fighting for and worth looking forward to. So many people allow for their lives to become so complicated and try to plan so many things out, become easily distracted by other matters and can concentrate completely, I understand whole heartedly because it happens to the best of us, but it take a fighter to truly make a decision and to stick with it, then live it out.

I am always told why are you so happy, I have had my deep sorrow moments, looked in the mirror and told myself, that is not the person that I truly am, it’s not the person I have fought so hard to become. I am a better then that, I am truly a person with many World Dreamer moments, I allow myself to truly want to carry out my goals, to bring joy and hope and love into people’s lives and to bring it back into my own life. I look forward to everyday with open arms because if I sit down and let life keep me down and I do nothing about it, take no action, come up with no solutions to what’s bothering me, look to come up with more and more excuses, that will not bring joy into my life. I will not experience truly what the day can truly be about.

A lot of us take the day and night, for granted, we do not truly see what we can do and what we cannot do. So many people would be the first ones with their hands out, if you were to have won the lottery, you would get calls from all family and friends, that you haven’t heard from in the longest amount of time. Money is not everything and believe that deeply, but it does provide you with the things which allow you to bring a little joy to your life, while decreasing your worries of your financial foundation. Money does not by you love either, not the real love that comes from the heart anyways.

Take some time to plan out your weekend and your life, take it on a step by step basis, and watch yourself blossom into the most beautiful flower, which the likes the world has never seen.

I plan to enjoy this day by listening to some relaxing music, doing a little bit of work, planning some activities for today and for the future, improving myself by going exercising, improve my business entrepreneurship skills by taking some training, listening to some audio coaching and watching some video training and creating and promoting some of my products, writing a few articles and then going to spend some time with some friends.

I also have plans to by an Amtrak ticket to Reno, Nevada to go visit my sisters and my nieces and nephews next week, I have a set time today to call and speak to my nieces and nephews as well.

What about you what do you have planned for the weekend?

Do you plan to watch a movie in the theator, rent some movies, go ice skating, get a massage, a haircut, study for a test that you have this upcoming week. It’s up to you to decide what you have planned for yourself and that of the more happier and more relax YOU.

Enjoy your weekend and let’s make the best weekend yet.

By Julio Mattos

http://www.MrJulio.com